My kids have really messy rooms. Not that I go in there and poke around much, but I’m working on my daughter’s bathroom wall. She wants wallpaper and the plaster is textured, so I have to replaster it before we wallpaper.
Her bathroom was soooooo sloppy, I had to clean the spot near her sink just so I could work in there. But I didn’t clean the whole thing, just my work area.
I learned a long time ago in a parenting class that kids get rebellious by nature when they hit the teen years. One good way to let them express this independence is to let them keep their room as they please. So here’s the question, messy rooms or them doing donuts in the car?